Twelve things introverts might find difficult by Samantha Chavez.
As introverts, we sometimes find mundane tasks more challenging than your average extroverts.
While introvert's experiences might be similar, we all differ in the way that we deal with them.
Here are 12 things that an introvert might find difficult.
1. Being told not to be shy.
Throughout our life, us introverts will often hear people tell us to "stop being shy". That results in associating shyness with weakness
People tend to confuse the two, even though there's nothing wrong with shyness.
Discovering introversion helps us rationalize how we feel, making it easier for us to move around in social situations.
Still, most introverts will avoid explaining their introversion to someone they've just met in hopes of stopping the "Don't be shy" comments, altogether.
2. Writing formal emails.
This can be a prime source of anxiety for introverts.
There will be at least 3 sessions of drafting, revising, and editing alone before they feel comfortable enough to press send.
And even then, we are not safe from No. 3. Overthinking Little Things
This translates mostly to face-to-face interactions,
as we have little to no time to prepare for what we are going to say, we fear that we will make a mistake, or spill something that we shouldn't.
Furthermore, a single phrase during a conversation can plague our minds for the rest of the day. Even if the other person didn't think much of it.
Not to mention No. 4. Reasoning doesn't make it better.
This goes along with face-to-face interactions. It's a very distressing experience for introverts. Even if it seems minor.
Sometimes, we're even aware how minor it is, and that the other person has probably forgotten about it already.
This doesn't stop the dark cloud looming above us, telling us we did wrong, though.
5. The idea of social engagements.
'There is going to be a big gathering!' are words that an introvert dreads to hear. We need time to prepare mentally.
For this reason, it's important for us to be informed of the time and place of the party, as well as the number of people that are attending.
Make it the least vague possible, and you'll be sure to lessen an introvert's anxiety.
Trust us when we say that we have already accepted the fact that we were going to attend a social gathering.
We can't help the anxiety we feel the days prior to it, though. Hearing about cancelled plans is an introvert's joy, since it's relieving the lead-up anxiety.
7. Navigating social events.
Sometimes, we aren't so lucky as to have plans cancelled.
And upon arriving to a social event, we'll do our best to get the greetings over with,
so we can find a secluded corner in which we can spend time observing, rather than participating.
It doesn't mean we're alone, though. It means we want to stay with people we trust, won't force us out of our comfort zone.
8. Sadly it doesn't always work out
Maybe, we don't find the people we're most comfortable with at the event
and any attempt at conversation results in us getting pushed further aside, if we fail.
This can take a toll on introverts, and exhaust them within seconds.
This leads us to No.9 Attempting and failing at conversations.
When we are discouraged from speaking because we tried, and weren't heard,
we'll often end up blaming ourselves for even trying.
10. Bad days.
On particularly bad days, it's hard for an introvert to find motivation to speak to ANYONE.
This might be difficult to understand, and often cause friction with an introvert and their friends.
11. Restlessness and self-disgust
During our bad days, we look for ways to channel our dissatisfaction with ourselves, either by cleaning or being creative.
We don't really want to talk to anyone yet, but we still need a sign of reassurance. We simply look to distract ourselves.
12. Being told to act "normal".
Althought introverts prefer to listen instead of participate in conversations, it's common for their silence to draw attention.
And more often then not, it tends to be of the negative time.
This can lead to unwanted comments telling us to "act normal". Thus, making us more exhausted.
While introverts might share certain experiences, they all affect us differently. What are some things that you find difficult as an introvert?